Uninhibited from truly connecting
There’s a thought that keeps grasping my heart, true connection. You might ask, “how can being uninhibited form a healthy connection”. Well It depends on what kind of relationship is trying to be formed by connecting. Different forms of boundaries can be seen as aids to keeping safe from unhealthy entanglement or being hurt, especially when there isn’t a covenant to safeguard the level of openness.
But what if the safeguards are there and the one you are connecting with is truly trustworthy, do we recognize inhibitions that are casing restraints to forming healthy connection. Are we free to truly connect?
What if some of the boundaries in place are because of fear and are hurting you already.
Anything done out of fear and not faith is sin, it’s something that causes disconnection.
Being truly free
For if you forgive others for their transgressions, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others, then your Father will not forgive your transgressions.
Mat 6:14 – 15
There is a dynamic that keeps arising in my thought’s.
“If you forgive the sins of any, their sins have been forgiven them; if you retain the sins of any, they have been retained.”
It’s sin that separates us and it’s forgiveness that unites us.
All this is from God, who reconciled us to himself through Christ and gave us the ministry of reconciliation
This connection effects all of our relationships. How we connect with one another also effects how we interact with God. Also how we interact with God effects how we connect with each other.
If we don’t recognize the gift of forgiveness God made available in Christ we can’t truly offer the level of forgiveness needed to truly connect with one another. We might be able to connect with people, but to truly connect as God wants us to there must be faith and not fear. This isn’t just the connects with one another this effects, it’s also our relationship with God.
This faith or fear effects how we interpret all the aspects of these relationships and the level connection we are open to. This then influences if we open ourselfs to more vulnerable and deeper connections that would allow the relationship to grow.
If forgiveness and faith are present in a relationship, then understanding each others communication and actions will be less effected by the distortions that fear can bring.
Without an attitude of walking in forgiveness we are inhibited and are inhibiting others.
An attitude of forgiveness establishes a rout of recollection if anything goes wrong. It also overcomes the fear of punishment and stops us from creating unhealthy boundaries caused by that fear.
Fear has to do with punishment
There are dynamics in our relationships that can go unseen yet are continually present. Some of these dynamics are destructive and continue to ambush healthy connection. Fear is one of these factors.
I had a friend that whenever relationships began to grow in his life, even friendships, he would sabotage them. He would suddenly distrust others and make it almost impossible to continue being his friend. Fears would overcome him and he would lash out. Obviously he had reasons to think people were not genuine in their relationship with him when he didn’t make it easy. Then his fears and reasons to be bitter would be confirmed. He would do all kinds of stuff to try and deal with the loneliness and gain friends yet when they got close he would again lash out with accusations and ambush the friendship.
He was a wounded soul. Abused as a child and living out this woundedness as a young man.
The reality is he needed healed.
But how does this kind of healing come? How can he ever get true connection without these bearers.
Getting healed to be open
God keeps bringing me to the time when Jesus healed the paralytic. The question is how did the man walk again? How did the man do something that before he could not do?
Just like my friend with close relationships, if this man tried to walk he would fall. He was in a condition that brought limitations to being free. Without healing, my friend was going to get more and more hurt.
So how did the paralytic get healed?
Something happened that would open an understanding of how God forgives.
How does God forgive
Jesus saw the faith of the paralyzed man’s friends and declared that the man’s sins were forgiven. The understanding up to that time was that the man deserved this illness because of sin in some way. The reality was God didn’t want judgment, He wanted mercy.
For judgment will be merciless to one who has shown no mercy; mercy triumphs over judgment.
The friends believed Jesus could give their friend that mercy. They might not of understood what was involved but they believed there wasn’t any barrier in the way of this healing from happening. This faith and uninhibited connection was recognized so Jesus forgave the man of his sins.
To bring understanding of what happened Jesus sais “That you might know that the son of man has the authority to forgive sin, rise up and walk”. Authority from whom? Who gave Him this authority? Why did he keep saying the son of man?
Power of forgiveness
The reality is because of the authority God gave Jesus to forgive sin, this man was healed. Heaven backed Jesus up with authority. Jesus backed up the faith of the friends. The paralytic responded with rising up and walking.
Okay so this forgiveness manifests healing. This forgiveness heals all the results of sin and death.
Forgiveness removes all the bearers of disconnection with the fullness of being in God’s kingdom. It was sin in the first place that brought disconnection. Disconnection from God and each other.
We are talking about full restoration. Not just physical. Physical was just a sign of a greater work that was happening. Full restoration of connection with God. No bearers to his fullness of life. We can forgive and heaven will back us up.
So Jesus said to them again, “Peace be with you; as the Father has sent Me, I also send you.” And when He had said this, He breathed on them and said to them, “Receive the Holy Spirit. If you forgive the sins of any, their sins have been forgiven them; if you retain the sins of any, they have been retained.”
Joh 20: 21-23
namely, that God was in Christ reconciling the world to Himself, not counting their trespasses against them, and He has committed to us the word of reconciliation. Therefore, we are ambassadors for Christ, as though God were making an appeal through us; we beg you on behalf of Christ, be reconciled to God.
2Co 5: 19-20
Jesus is still restoring connection with God through us. We are ministers of reconciliation as we forgive and receive forgiveness. In Christ there is a recognition of God’s overcoming of any briers to developing deep relationships that grow and are free from the distortions of unbeilf and the fear of punishment.